My name is Jay and I am torn with choosing between my wife by doing her bidding or stand by my words and divorce.
I met my wife about four years ago when I travelled to the east for Christmas. If love at foresight did exist then this was one. She came from a family of 6 and she is the first out of the two daughters. Fast forward to 2018, things were going smoothly and we planned to settle down. I got an expensive list from the family and told her to liaise with them to cut some things but she responded that it’s the family tradition and she doesn’t have a say. I ended up spending above 3 million Naira for the traditional wedding. After all I love her.
My name is Jay and I am torn with choosing between my wife by doing her bidding or stand by my words an
We plan not to have kids immediately so we could save enough money to give them the life they deserve. The sum of our monthly salary is around #350,000.
Everything was going smoothly till her brother which is the last born of her family came to complete his secondary school education where we live, which is okay by me. He was in SS2 then.
One Saturday evening, I and my wife were discussing and our gist got to his brother’s education. I was surprised as she wants “us” to be responsible for his higher education. I bluntly decline that no such thing will happen. I reminded her how the family left me to shoulder the wedding completely and also our financial status. After so much argument her conclusion was that “if I truly love her I would help her brother”.
Two weeks later she wants a divorce, she said she can’t be with someone that can’t assist her family member.
I am dumbfounded and I don’t know what to do.
Please I need your advice